Gentlemen, a change of mindset can improve your sex life. Find out more about seven common sexual mistakes guys make with women and learn how to avoid them.
Sometimes a little can go a long way, but do you know what little could make all the difference?
Mistake 1: sex begins in the bedroom
Men can turn on like a light, but for women, arousal doesn’t happen as quickly. Pave the way during the day by hugging, kissing and holding her hand. Have fun together and show her you appreciate her.
Feeling secure in the relationship is the key to a woman really letting loose during sex. A long hug can go further than you think. Hugging for 30 seconds stimulates oxytocin, the hormone in women that creates a sense of connection and trust.
Mistake 2: Assuming you know what she wants
Many women fake orgasm today just as they did 20 or 30 years ago. So, if she’s not having fun, you might not know. So pay attention and don’t hesitate to ask her questions. Communicating can help you avoid irreparable sexual mistakes.
Mistake 3: Sticking to your plan
Don’t assume that if a plan worked the first three times, it will work the next three times. What turns your partner on may depend on her mood and status in her monthly cycle. Maybe her nipples are more sensitive or her genitals are less shaky”?!
Pay attention to your partner. Try different things and see how she reacts. When you find something that works, stick with it. Women often complain that men move on to something else just when they really start to enjoy an activity.
Mistake 4: Think about physical stimulation
Develop your idea of foreplay. Some men concentrate on physical stimulation and often ignore mental stimulation. While men are moved by what they see, women fantasize a lot during intercourse as part of the arousal process.
Mistake 5: Don’t rely on intercourse alone to give her an orgasm
For 80% of women, intercourse won’t be enough. Why not? Most sexual positions don’t directly stimulate the clitoris. There are other ways to please it. Women orgasm much more often from oral sex than from intercourse. Try making love with the woman on top, or use a vibrator designed for couples. Men should feel comfortable, not threatened, with sex toys.
To help her get in the mood when you’re having sex, take the time to turn her on before you make your entrance. The more women are stimulated when they start sex, the more likely they are to have an orgasm.
Mistake 6: Think about seduction
Women like to be seduced. Seduction is as important, if not sometimes more important, than technique. It helps to know what kind of activation your partner likes, whether oral, visual or mental. Does your partner like it when you talk dirty on the phone or by SMS? Flirting with her in a bar? Ask her to avoid silly sexual mistakes.
Also, if you like what you see, say so. Let a woman know how desirable she is (without being too vulgar).
Mistake 7: Focus on the little bell
Most women need clitoral stimulation to have an orgasm, but it’s more complex than you think. Some men don’t understand the anatomy of the clitoris. It’s more than the little “button” you can see. Its nerve endings spread throughout the vulva and inside the vagina.
You can come and go. Too much attention to the glans, at the top of the vulva, can deprive some women of pleasure. It’s so sensitive that too much stimulation can hurt. Maybe it’s time to take another oral sex class for a cunnilingus extravaganza. Now you know all about the sexual mistakes you shouldn’t make. Now it’s your turn!
