Do you know the Munchs? Does the name ring a bell or not at all? These moments of exchange in the BDSM world are reserved for initiates. Find out everything you need to know if you want to take part.

The world of BDSM isn’t just about sexual torture, leather and latex. It’s a real state of mind with its own codes. You need to know them to adopt the right practices when you’re a beginner. And then you’ll realize that it’s a vast and varied universe, rich in many deviances where you’ll always find devotees, ready to take and give pleasure in different ways. And for this to happen, in addition to the Internet, there are Munchs.

So what are Munchs? What does it involve? How does it work? Who are the guests? These are just some of the questions that may puzzle a novice, or even a long-time practitioner who has never had the opportunity to take part in this event. Here’s the lowdown.

What is a Munch?

A Munch is a time for BDSM practitioners to meet and exchange ideas. This event can take many forms, such as a party, an aperitif, a meeting, a dinner, etc. All of which are opportunities to test your practices with other practitioners. What’s more, these gatherings are often public and open to all. That’s the welcoming spirit of this milieu. No, I’m serious.

During these exchanges, participants take the opportunity to forge new links with new people, or strengthen existing ones with others. There’s plenty to talk about, and everyone likes to show off their little tricks of the trade. Contrary to what you might think, the aim here is not to meet people for love, or even for sex, but really to forge links with other members of the BDSM community. There’s real respect between members.

However, don’t think that this event resembles a fair, as there are no official demonstrations scheduled, nor any artistic displays. It’s more like an exchange of information. You can meet up with the curious and beginners, so that they can make sure that the practitioners are decent people. Yes, you have to beat the clichés. By the way, the iconic outfits of sado-masochism(leather, chains, leashes, latex, etc.) are not necessarily the absolute “dress code”.

Even if the Munchs are public, it remains a private event, reserved for those who know where to find the information. So if you want to take part, you’ll have to go looking for information. This information is not distributed widely on a voluntary basis, but only on specialized networks for a well-informed public. This is so as not to disturb a neighboring public who would not be the target of discussions that might appear indiscreet.

How does a Munch work?

As it’s usually held in a public place, you can expect a bar or café, or even a reception room reserved for the occasion. This allows you to talk freely about your interests and share your diverse experiences, all in a safe and respectful space.

When the venue is privatized, it’s possible to witness a few demonstrations of submission / domination. If you want to be lucky enough to attend, you’ll need to choose your evening carefully. Conversely, if the venue is public, you won’t be able to see any distinctive signs that mean you’re at a BDSM meeting. This helps to avoid unwanted guests.

So, as you can imagine, it would be a bit … like an after-work party. Good spirit, relaxation and conviviality.

If you’re just starting out in the BDSM world, Munchs are a must when you’re a novice. These get-togethers give you the chance to chat with experienced practitioners who can teach you the vocabulary, rules and codes of conduct of this community.

TheMunchs’10 gold enrules

Like any event, there are rules to know and follow if you want to take part and not be thrown out of the room after 5 minutes. They’re also in line with the values of the BDSM universe. Ready to take notes?

1 – Consent

You must respect the limits and consents of each participant present. Here, no coercion is accepted, and it’s important to respect everyone. As in a BDSM session, you need to be aware of your partner’s limits, and never force them.

2 – Communication

Here, you need to clearly and openly express your limits and what you will and won’t do. Don’t be shy: there will always be someone with more daring practices than yours. So express yourself so you can exchange ideas with people who share your desires and fantasies.

3 – Don’tgo against someone’s wishes

Even if the world of BDSM can give a feeling of violence, I’ll keep telling you that it’s a very respectful environment for sexual partners. It is therefore strictly forbidden to force or push someone to do what they don’t want to do. You must respect each other’s desires and limits.

4 – Respect the intimacy andprivacy of other participants

You’re here to talk about your BDSM sexual practices, not to find out about each other’s lives in minute detail. Don’t be too intrusive.

5 – Drugs and dangerous products are forbidden

During the Munch, you must stay clean. All illegal or dangerous substances are forbidden. So, if you’re into chem sex, skip it or hold back. You’ll be on your way out.

6 – Politeness and courtesy

Being respectful and courteous towards other participants, whatever their sexual orientation or practices, is essential. As the saying goes, kindness begins with non-judgment.

7 – Don’t film or take photos

In any case, not without people’s consent. If they give you permission, okay. But if they don’t, don’t.

8 –Confidentiality required

Discretion is always a must in the BDSM world, and Munchs is no exception. It’s forbidden to divulge any personal information about participants. You wouldn’t want them to, would you? So don’t.

9 –Honesty and sincerity

When you introduce yourself, be as honest and sincere as possible about your sexual practices. Don’t hesitate to share your experiences and sexual habits. It will always be appreciated.

10 – Follow the Munch organizer‘s rules

If you’re a guest, respect your host and what he’s set up for you.

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