women . Their personality , their scent, their maturity , their way of making love , … In short, you like to share your naughty moments with an older woman who knows what she wants and can teach you some little things when it comes to sexuality .

Mature women do not approach each other the same way as a young woman in a bar. In addition, we could speak of two main categories for women who have passed a certain stage in life: those who have experience; those coming out of a long relationship and who have things to discover, including themselves. However, these two types of women have things in common. Especially when it comes to making love. So how do mature women make love? What details will you need to pay attention to? What are the best practices? The difficulties? Advantages ? I tell you everything.

The sexuality of seniors

We cannot talk about the sexuality of older women without easily talking about that of men of the same age, if only to give a point of comparison. And if you thought that youth gave an advantage to your sexuality, you might be surprised!

Indeed, 40% of men aged 60 to 69 have sexual intercourse per week (25% between 70 and 79) and around 25% of women aged 60 to 79, according to an American study published in 2008  and conducted  among 26,000 people in 29 countries. Yes, making love is good for your health and maintains your cardio, so it is even recommended to do it regularly when you are a senior. However, this subject often remains taboo. The sexologist Céline Candillier testified on this subject in the Journal des Femmes : “ Nobody talks about it because society and its idealization of young and perfect bodies makes sexuality taboo among aging people. It is believed that they no longer have desire, or pleasure related to the body. This is not normal, this taboo must be lifted because some seniors themselves give up on their sexuality because of the normative influence of society. Sexuality determines a large part of our access to happiness and to aging well  ”.

From when is one categorized as a senior?

Good question ! On paper, we speak of senior when people are aged between 60 and 80, then 80 and over. There are young seniors and more mature seniors who do not have the same needs. Although the psychic takes precedence for many (it’s all in the head, they say), the body and its weaknesses sometimes remind us of reality.

“  It is the accentuation of the dependence that pushes the person into a fourth age, an age where the sexual desire still exists but where sexual relations can be more difficult to have without the help of a sexual assistant as it exists in other European countries  “, specifies the sexologist. The latter are also not accepted everywhere since in France for example, it is illegal, associated with a form of prostitution (while it is so much more than that). Switzerland, Belgium, Denmark and Germany are more open on the subject.

What points should you pay attention to when having sex with a mature woman?

When we still have a sexuality, we are in good health! Even if you don’t make love the same way at 20, at 60 or at 80. There are a few important points you need to be vigilant about.

1 – Extend the preliminaries

Older women no longer have the same libido as when they were young and it takes a little longer to bring up the first heat. You will therefore have to prolong the preliminaries. Take the time to caress your partner, kiss her and discover her erogenous zones, including the most sensitive ones to make her vibrate at the slightest touch. It’s necessary. For what ? This change in arousal found in both men and women is essentially due to age-related physiological changes such as, for example, the loss of elasticity of the skin which reduces sensitivity to stimulation. Thus, caresses are no longer perceived in the same way.

2 – Give time to time

Taking your time can only have advantages with a more mature woman . There are new ways of making love, such as slow sex, which can be totally adapted to age-related specificities. And then the right moment is also important, especially when sexual desires arise. So why wait for the evening if it tickles everyone in the morning?

3 – Communicate with your partner

Women, and even more women with experience , like to communicate about sex. Indeed, their body does not react in the same way as when they were 20 years old. It is therefore advisable to discuss the small details that can improve your beauty’s comfort, such as a good lubricant for vaginal dryness. Indeed, a senior woman has a less flexible and thinner vaginal walls, which can cause irritation and pain. And then it can fit into a sexual game.

4 – D efine your relationship

Dr. Céline Candillier advises: “The sexual relationship is perceived more as an intimate and close relationship with someone than as a physical performance: it is not necessarily synonymous with penetration, but rather with shared intimacy and complicity. This last one is very important”.

Can the menopause pose a problem in the sexuality of an older woman ?

Menopause, the famous “gap” of 50 years… Where the woman’s body changes, so do sexual desires. That said, this is not necessarily synonymous with the end but rather to do otherwise. Women sometimes have to relearn how to make love and rediscover their sexuality in a different way. Explanations.

Sexual desire and orgasms

More than according to age, it is often more according to life events and the environment that the drop in libido occurs. Societal norms tend to stifle seniors’ libido, and women tend to stifle their sexual desire. Big mistake since whatever the age, mature women can have orgasms, even several! Moreover, the sexologist specifies: “  Studies show that in women, the orgasm at 60 years old is of better quality than that at 40 years old. Indeed, women who have an active sex life at 60 are women who know themselves better, and it is by knowing themselves better and accepting their bodies that we improve sensations”  . Thanks to dopamine and oxytocin in particular to participate in the operation by exacerbating the sensations.

The sexual practices of older women

Don’t think age changes everything. Sometimes all it takes is a few adjustments to have the same pleasure and comfort as when you were young. Ok, it takes longer to bring the temperature up. Ok, there are probably a few sex positions you won’t be doing anymore. Ok, sex doesn’t always end with penetration . But all this does not prevent you from having fun and enjoying like never before. You just have to communicate to find the right balance and continue to make love.

What are the benefits of continuing to make love ?  

Regardless of age, sexuality is always good. ” If seniors have desire and we deprive them of this sexuality, we deprive them of well-being .” Dr. Candillier details the benefits of sexuality in this age group:

• It gives an opportunity to express affection, passion for a person.
• It makes it possible to affirm that one’s body works and that it can give pleasure, which has a positive impact on the feeling of self-esteem.
• Sexual closeness helps challenge age stereotypes that seniors don’t move and are unable to feel desire.
• It has a positive impact on people’s mood and well-being.
• It is beneficial for “aging well” because it is a guarantee of good physical and mental health.
• Sexuality protects against cognitive disorders such as Alzheimer’s thanks to the hormones that are released during love.

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