by two partners?! I guess you wouldn’t say no, would you?!
Having a threesome is a bit of a taboo, something forbidden. And that’s exactly what’s exciting. But it is not the only reason. Many specialists have looked into the question and provided us with answers. Let’s dissect together what we call threesome, threesome or menage à trois.
The reasons given by the experts
Specialists provide us with various answers, but the list is not exhaustive. On the one hand, they evoke the role played by the media in the democratization of certain sexual habits, including threesomes. In 2003, researchers analyzed the relationship between sexual attitudes and perceptions and watching television. Result: prolonged exposure to sexual content would indeed have an effect on our perception of sex .
When biology comes into play
It is also wise to think that gender matters. However, the basis seems the same. Being the center of attention, receiving pleasure, giving it, all in double. Needless to say, it’s exciting! Imagine four hands looking after you. And what you prefer in the double woman. Enough to glimpse good sexy and naughty moments, as well as a lot of pleasure.
It is also argued that it refers to a feeling of power. The one in the center of attention dominates the others, in a way. Whether for a man or a woman, there is something attractive about finding yourself in the center of attention that nourishes a feeling of power. And this, consciously or unconsciously.
For women, the threesome fantasy is less common but tends to become more common. However, the degree of pleasure she feels is less easy to measure.
A recurring fantasy
Why is it recurring? Because the threesome refers to our ideal position, whether unconsciously or not. That is to say, to be loved at the same time on both sides, like the child who wanted the love of his mother and father to be directed towards him. This construction is carried over into sexuality with a very strong narcissistic feeling, since it gives the impression of being very strong, powerful, valued, loved twice as much and being the priority of two people. This flatters the ego of the recipient. Enough to boost self-confidence and reassure yourself about your seductive abilities. Whether it’s a man or a woman.
More men than women?
Yes, and the gender changes too. Women will think more about two men (but woman is also an option). Men, in the majority, will associate two women together. Whether they are lesbian or not doesn’t necessarily matter. In any case, this scenario is present in both sexes, even if you gentlemen are the big winners.
In the threesome fantasy, there is also the idea of passing on one’s genes further with multi-procreation. It is true that it is more difficult for a man not to have children than for a woman. We would have thought the opposite, strangely. But it is a safe bet that the main and more or less conscious reason is a way of being pampered by two women, the child at the center of attention is therefore satisfied since, in a way, his whole body is taken into account. charge.
Let’s not forget once again that feeling of power when you feel desired by two people at the same time. And the desire to satisfy them. A narcissistically very buoyant fantasy, hence the fact that we find it often.
Is this a good idea to do as a couple?
Difficult to say yes or no because many factors come into play. Would this weaken your relationship or, on the contrary, make it stronger? Especially since it is more difficult at first for the follower than the decision-maker. The first is more capable of living this experience, while the other followed out of love, out of excitement…
It depends on your relationship . A number three can bring jealousy into a relationship if it already has flaws. But if everything is agreed and discussed, that will already be a first step.
How to have a threesome in 5 points
If you want to make your fantasy come true and embark on the adventure, here are 5 key points to keep in mind to make your sex party a success.
1 – Communication, the key to success
How to propose it to your partner? Well be honest and talk about your fantasy with your partner. Talk about it freely by asking all the questions that everyone wants while addressing the couple’s non-exclusivity. Ask her how she would feel if a third person was included temporarily. It is important that these subjects are discussed and agreed upon to avoid a possible problem as much as possible.
2 – Don’t take just anyone
Asking the next door neighbor or a close friend can be awkward. Think carefully about the connection you have with the other person and the effect it would have if you proposed to them. Would this change your relationships? Do you want this? Is it long or short term? Etc. What is certain is that the less emotional ties you have with this person, the easier the future will be.
3 – Find the right people
You may already have an idea of who to ask for a threesome, and who not. If you don’t know where to look, you can always try certain sites or dating apps designed for this purpose.
4 – Consider setting the limits of the game
Fantasy and reality are two different things. And no one will read your mind. So if there are things that you want to do or that you don’t want to be done to you (a finger in the ass, using a sex toy , licking your anus, etc.) , say it. And let everyone do the same thing.
So no misunderstandings and unpleasant surprises. To fully enjoy this erotic moment, everyone must feel physically and psychologically safe. So, set the limits, we will thank you.
5 – A flop? It doesn’t matter
Little hiccups happen to everyone, even the best. So if this happens to you, play it down. It doesn’t matter. And if you can laugh about it, that’s even better, it will restart the machine faster. Sex should be fun and not a hassle.
Bonus: With unknown partners
We will take each point listed previously and we will simply add a reminder: wear a condom! We are not discussing this point.
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